My father’s letters to my mother 1944 to 1947

dad and mum

In 1944, my father, Desmond Le Pard, was seventeen, my mother, Barbara Francis nearly a year older. Dad, like many young men wanted to join up; but he hankered to fly and the RAF were being picky. The MoD needed ground troops – cannon fodder as Dad saw it. So, having matriculated (sort of the GCSEs of their day) from Caterham School (he would proudly tell you it was on a  full scholarship – the son of a tailor living in a council house, he had no silver spoon) he went to work at County Hall until he could join the ‘Few’. There he found his immediate boss was a woman and a glamorous one, too.
mum 1940s Was he intimidated? You bet he was. She had poise, class and a certain aloofness that kept the young buck at bay. He needed a stroke of luck – Serendipity if you like – for a purely business acquaintance to blossom into something more.
So, enter stage right a V1 bomb. More accurately it came from the south, from France, phutt-putting its way towards the Houses of Parliament. Back then, young people like my parents were a trifle blasé about such things. They had seen or heard about so much carnage that another bomb, one they could see, gave them a certain frisson of excitement. So, on that hot summer day, the youngsters in the office crowded to the window on hearing that familiar rattling drone. No doubt they wanted to see it crash – not really thinking about the likely death that followed. They weren’t indifferent to it so much as inured.
To have a better view my five foot five mother climbed on a table by the open window with a couple of others and the chatter grew as they waited. Perhaps it was that chatter that distracted them from the fact that the V1’s motor had stopped. By that time everyone knew that a few seconds after that echoing silence the bomb would explode. Dad heard, though. He knew. He grabbed the nearest woman and hauled her to the ground seconds before the explosion sent glass flying everywhere.
Maybe there was some exaggeration in that first rough physical introduction. What’s not in doubt is it gave Dad the necessary courage and prevented Mum from rebuffing her suitor. And possibly the gods were still smiling when, on their first date and due to overcrowding and some paternal incompetence, Dad lost Mum at Leicester Square tube station. My sense of Dad back then was an tough little sod, one with several little chips about his person concerning who he was and how he was perceived. But the one thing he always had was the ability to mock himself, to send himself up. That trait would endear him to Mum more than any other. That facet of his character helped bind them together and the laughter that ensued from another example of Desmond’s cock ups kept them together until Dad’s death in 2005.
This is a nice story but why tell it here, beyond a certain filial pride? Well shortly after that first date Mum joined the ATS to drive trucks and tanks and heaven knows what, leaving Dad behind to stew in London, feeling guilty that he was missing the ‘Show’ and anxious at what was happening to his new girlfriend. So he wrote letters. Once, twice a week from the end of August 1944 until his own demobilisation in 1948. I knew nothing of these letters until the Archaeologist and I were clearing out Mum’s bungalow after her death in 2010. In a shoe box, at the back of a wardrobe I found them, neatly preserved in their original envelopes. Mum’s hoarding was a thing of family legend. ‘You never know when it might come in useful’ was her answer to Dad’s exasperation at the impossibility of getting into the loft. When we moved her to the bungalow in 2006, she had tins of fruit from before sell-by dates were introduced to cans in the 1970s.
Those letters, one sided though they are – Dad was never the sort to keep Mum’s replies, at least not back then – give a fascinating insight into the lives of two young people as they struggled with the challenge of falling and staying in love despite the distance caused by war and its aftermath. Somehow they kept it going, mostly by these letters. They tell of their sometimes mundane lives as well as reporting on the many incidents as the war in Europe began to turn the Allies’ way. You discover a man discovering himself. Politically angry – he would have been a communist if his father wouldn’t have killed him for it – full of bluff and bluster and the coarseness of the young male schooled in a tough environment, the young romantic had his darling Barbara to thank for keeping him sane. It gave him an outlet for his poetry too; a lot of it is rough and ready but some, like the one he wrote just before his first ever parachute jump, is spine-tinglingly poignant. As you will see.
I have either transcribed the letters or copied them and have posted some and will post others gradually over the coming weeks and months so you can get a sense of their episodic relationship. Where I can add something I will. Especially when Dad is posted to be part of the British Forces controlling the British protectorate in Palestine prior to Partition in 1948. Otherwise the letters will speak for themselves. You’ll find the letters behind the relevant tabs above but I’ll let you know when new ones have been added. I hope you enjoy them. For me, well they still make me smile and cry at the same time.

24 Responses to My father’s letters to my mother 1944 to 1947

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  2. Wonderful stuff, Geoff. You should repost this as I’m sure a lot of people would love to read this love story. It’s almost like something out of a book, and what a wonderful find in the bottom of the wardrobe where this little piece of history was kept.

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  4. willowdot21 says:

    You know my feeling on these wonderful insights into your parents lives! Beautiful!!

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  5. I agree with Hugh’s Views and News that this would make a great book!

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  6. Annecdotist says:

    It’s a lovely story and well worth sharing again – you could probably get away with posting it every year!!

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  7. Autism Mom says:

    I am glad you shared this again – agreed it would make a great book. Stories like these are quintessential.

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  8. Charli Mills says:

    What wonders in a shoebox. I’m glad you re-posted this (thanks, Hugh)!

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  9. restlessjo says:

    Happenstance, my coming here, Geoff. This looks like a darn good read, if I did but have the time 🙂

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  10. roweeee says:

    The minimalists of this world mock the so-called “hoarders” until such gems turn up. Such a pity these remained hidden away until after your Mum had died and you could ask further questions. We have my grandfather’s letters written to my grandmother from about 1939-1942 when they married. She was living in Brisbane, which was under threat from the Japanese and he was further out west working as a Pastor in Dalby. I have cross referenced the letters with local newspapers and magazines from the time and it was very insightful experiencing history as it occurred rather than through the eyes of retrospect.
    I started reading the letters from the top , not realising that is typical blogger fashion, they were in reverse.
    I love the story of how they met. Much more romantic than even I’d imagined.
    By the way, I miss the power of the letter. I used to write letters all the time to my grandparents. My grandmother was very much like your Dad about me sending letters. She didn’t even care if they were written on toilet paper, she just loved to receive them. She, of course, kept all my letters and I now have a wonderful record of growing up as well as being able to cherish their replies.
    xx Rowena

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  11. I too have found it fascinating getting to know my parents, as they were in the 1940s, through their letters.

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  12. inesephoto says:

    Beautiful story. I am really grateful for people who keep letters – the most sincere records of the time.

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  13. This is such a lovely story!

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