On A Little Hill, Far, Far Away #Britishandirishlions #southafrica #memories

boulders beach penguins

There is a rugby test match due to take place this Saturday in Cape Town between the British and Irish Lions and the current World Champions, South Africa.

In 1997 I took my father to South Africa for his seventieth birthday to watch that summer’s series between the British and Irish Lions and the Springboks. The start of this year’s series reminds me of that trip and, in particular, one even that had nothing to do with the rugby and everything to do with the Old Man and me.

It was a fabulous trip, from the beauty of Table Mountain and the incongruity of the Penguins of Boulder’s Beach to the joy of experiencing two Test victories and the delights of Stellenbosch.

After the last game we had a day before we went on Safari and I organised for us to go on trip to Isandalwana and Rorke’s Drift. These two places are linked in a lot of minds by the film Zulu and especially the ludicrously heroic defence of the latter by the British forces, led by a Royal Engineer lieutenant.

We enjoyed both elements of the trip but for me, it was our time at Isandlwana that stands out. It was a place of British hubris and humiliation on a grand scale. Here’s the summary from Wiki

On the morning of th[e] day [of the battle] Lord Chelmsford split his forces and moved out to support a reconnoitring party, leaving the camp in charge of Colonel Pulleine. The British were outmanoeuvred by the main Zulu army nearly 20,000 strong led by Ntshingwayo kaMahole Khoza. Chelmsford was lured eastward with much of his centre column by a Zulu diversionary force while the main Impi attacked his camp. Chelmsford’s decision not to set up the British camp defensively, contrary to established doctrine, and ignoring information that the Zulus were close at hand were decisions that the British were soon to regret. The ensuing Battle of Isandlwana was the greatest victory that the Zulu kingdom would enjoy during the war. The British centre column was wrecked and its camp annihilated with heavy casualties as well as the loss of all its supplies, ammunition and transport. The defeat left Chelmsford no choice but to hastily retreat out of Zululand. In the battle’s aftermath, a party of some 4,000 Zulu reserves mounted an unauthorised raid on the nearby British army border post of  Rorke’s Drift and were driven off after 10 hours of ferocious fighting.

What makes it so special for me is how it impacted my relationship with my father. On the coach to Isandalwana he told me how his father, my grandfather,  would recount stories from South Africa to him as a boy. From the explorations and colonization to the various Boer Wars to the battles of the Anglo-Zulu wars. Grandfather couldn’t bring himself to recount the horrors of the First World War which he had gone through from near beginning to the very end. So it was to the history of Southern Africa he turned for tales of derring-do to engage the mind of a patriotic little boy. Today we have a different perspective on how the British behaved; it’s not exactly a period of which to be proud. We both understood that and were very taken with the atmosphere post the end of Apartheid, but Dad’s memory took him back to a different world and that different perspective.

By the time we arrived and decanted from our coach Dad had gone quiet. Our guide led us across some rough gravelly ground and slowly up a conical hill – a kopje – to sit, spread out on the escarpment. As he explained the events of the two days that led to this historic battle, I was entranced. He was a brilliant speaker, captivating all of us with the pictures he painted of red coated English and glistening Zulu warriors. The talk was done, the spell broken and we stood to return to our bus. Dad didn’t move. His eyes were red-rimmed, damp.

This man didn’t cry. He was the ultimate example of the stiff upper lipped Englishman. He didn’t do anything so banal as overt emotion.

‘I wish Dad were here,’ was all he said.

I understood. He had had a difficult time with his father from his teenaged years on and it was only towards the end, by which time Dad had married and produced one grandson (the Archaeologist, who they named after Grandfather) that some sort of equilibrium was restored. Grandfather died in 1957 when I, no. 2 grandson was six months old and that rapprochement still had a ways to go.

Here he was, with his own son, at the end of a fabulous two weeks. Two weeks we both knew we would remember forever. And, just then, he wanted to have those two weeks as a son as well as a father.

We hugged. We didn’t hug, not then, not really, not much, not with the intensity of that hug on that hill in that sun on the soil of a faraway land. We pretty much didn’t stop hugging after that. As it turned out he had another eight good years of hugging and he never ever turned down any hugs thereafter. He had a lot of catching up to do and understood the pointlessness of missing out.

Boys on Tour – South Africa 1997

About TanGental

My name is Geoff Le Pard. Once I was a lawyer; now I am a writer. I've published several books: a four book series following Harry Spittle as he grows from hapless student to hapless partner in a London law firm; four others in different genres; a book of poetry; four anthologies of short fiction; and a memoir of my mother. I have several more in the pipeline. I have been blogging regularly since 2014, on topic as diverse as: poetry based on famous poems; memories from my life; my garden; my dog; a whole variety of short fiction; my attempts at baking and food; travel and the consequent disasters; theatre, film and book reviews; and the occasional thought piece. Mostly it is whatever takes my fancy. I avoid politics, mostly, and religion, always. I don't mean to upset anyone but if I do, well, sorry and I suggest you go elsewhere. These are my thoughts and no one else is to blame. If you want to nab anything I post, please acknowledge where it came from.
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19 Responses to On A Little Hill, Far, Far Away #Britishandirishlions #southafrica #memories

  1. Mauro Longoni says:

    Nice post!

    Liked by 3 people

  2. A wonderful memory. It was a sad day when they stopped churning out Zulu for Christmas viewing

    Liked by 3 people

  3. A lovely remembrance Geoff.

    Liked by 3 people

  4. davidprosser says:

    To a Hugger this is heart warming story Geoff.
    Hugs

    Liked by 2 people

  5. noelleg44 says:

    What a lovely memory you two made, Geoff. I know your father loved it and you for making it. So much history has been buried…

    Liked by 2 people

  6. Darlene says:

    A wonderful memory, Geoff. I was always closer to my dad than my brother was and it made me happy to see the two of them become closer in the later years of my dad´s life.

    Liked by 2 people

  7. willowdot21 says:

    Happy Days.💜

    Liked by 2 people

  8. Great story, Geoff.

    Liked by 1 person

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