I’ve been at the cricket this week. An Ashes Test Match at Lord’s and at lunch on Sunday England are onto a hiding. A sense of resigned acceptance sits like a fog over the ground. England don’t know whether to stick or twist.
My companion is angry. Angry at their resigned passivity. We sit at lunch and we have a chunter. We want fight. We don’t want acceptance of what statistically might be inevitable.
We change the subject to talk about families and work, holidays and hopes. Being a role model. Wanting to give our children a belief in achieving their goals whatever the odds.
My guest is my cousin’s husband. They have a 5 year old boy and a little girl. Six months old. Mine are a lot older but the aspirations remain, don’t they? We don’t want them to be accepting of a statistical inevitability, of assumptions society and ourselves burden them with.
But my companion has been accepting all his life. He was born blind. All his life he has had to accept that fact. It is what he is.
But he doesn’t accept it in any passive or limiting sense. Like being left handed it’s just part of him. He also doesn’t allow for limitations. Not in any sense of stopping him from getting the most out of his life. He’s grateful for the assistance he is offered – and many good people do offer all the time – but even if assistance wasn’t offered he’d still aim to do his own thing.
He both accepts the status quo and rejects it. He accepts what others think and rejects their assumptions.
It seems to me that the England team could learn something from Craig. He wouldn’t stick if it held him back. He’d twist if the opportunity was there. And smiles as he does so, as he confounds accepted wisdoms. Not a bad role model for his children, don’t you think?.
Even if we both accept that I’ll be buying the beer today
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